When someone you love deeply, hurts you, the pain may double for a while, when you realize it is their woundedness that wounded you. You hurt for yourself, and you hurt for them.
It’s hard to forget the sting that their words and actions caused you. But your heart cries for the pain that they must have on the inside. “Hurting people hurt people.”
And as I find myself, thinking more of their wounds, my offended feelings, start to lighten. When I consider what may be going on in their soul, it becomes easier to have compassion, to love them even more, and most importantly, to forgive. Is this the path to healing? If I choose to let God bring healing and forgiveness to my heart and soul, might it in some way help them to heal? I think, yes!
Each of us must make our own choice, but when I am free from my offended heart, when I let it go, and forgive, I believe it opens the door to a restored relationship. When my wounds are healed, I have a greater understanding, a sincere compassion, and a deeper love!
So while it may still sting, the pain lessens as I let Jesus work in my heart. I even start to feel hope and joy, knowing that if God loves and heals me, He’ll do the same for them!
“For there is no partiality with God.”
Romans 2:11 NKJV
“who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.”
2 Corinthians 1:4 NIV
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
Psalm 34:18 NIV
“Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony.”
Colossians 3:13-14 NLT